THE Rash Existence OR THE Resourceful LIFE?

By freetrafficsystem On May 31, 2009 Under Self Improvement

“Start every day with a smile and get it over with”. W.C. Fields

Have you been ‘conditioned’ to think that getting a occupation and working forty hours per week at something you don’t really enjoy, but pays the bills, is as good as it gets. Then join the masses.

But it’s also accurate that most of us want our lives to be important; we want to know where we are headed and we require something deeper than ‘just a job’.

When we leave this existence we want to have achieved something meaningful, and not felt that we had misspent our precious time here on this weird and wonderful planet.

But are you not fortunate to have a career, any occupation? Well, no, I think this is a furphy. You will be dead one day, so why not try for the biggest dream that turns you on? Why fritter away all those 9 to 5 hours doing stuff that turns you into a depressing, whining, boring victim? Better off dead!

Is it bigheaded to believe you can have the life of your dreams? That depends who you’ve been listening to. Who is making up this game of life? Your parents? Your friends? Your teachers? Your history books? Life is there for the taking…provided that you are ready to pay the price. No hazard, no adventure, no letdown, no success. You decide what you want your life to become – if you dare.

If you’re ready to live the life you desire, visit Meaning of life

So why is it so hard to transform one’s life for the better?

Here are seven major worries and obstacles that stop people going after their dream life:

You don’t know what you wish for because you thought it was not an significant question or you have accepted other people’s directions without any thought. When we are young, our sense of self and our level of self-esteem are reliant on our parents and teachers who decide for us what is noble and bad behaviour and what rewards and reprimands go with this behaviour. So we learnt how to please our authority figures by becoming the kind of individual that they liked.

The majority of people are followers or reactors – People who stand out have to be bold and risk exclusion, or face emotional and fiscal ruin. This is too much ‘perceived pain’ for too little ‘perceived gain’. Note the word ‘perceived’. The actuality is regularly very different but we tend to imagine the worst.

We live in a highly specialised workforce and once you get on the job (just over broke)-mortgage-buy stuff-pay debts-watch TV (no energy for anything else) – mow the lawn – do the housework – you know the rest – treadmill, it is almost impossible to motivate yourself to switch careers or do something different.

Fear of failure. You fear ending up in the poorhouse, this fear kicks in as soon as you think you might be better off doing something else and that’s as far as it gets.

You want assurance about the future but of course no-one can give you that certainty so you live with the devil of a career you know (or the devil of a partner) and resign yourself to a life of sacrifice and sameness and mediocrity.

The misconception that we must find the ideal remedy before we commit to anything else, and so we keep looking for something in heaven rather than something right in front of our noses.

You can’t be bothered, it’s all too hard, pass me another _____ (fill in the blank).

When we’re accustomed to living this way, it may take a trauma (a family or health crisis) to wake us up and regrettably this is what it takes before a person resolvesthat ‘enough is enough’.

But what then?

Another predicament emerges from the total specialisation of the rat race. What/ Who / Where/ When/ How do I alter my life? All you know so far is what doesn’t work! How do you find the correct path to your most wanted future? What do you in reality want?

There must be a way out of this confusion?

There is. Find out how to make your future. Become a life artist.

But it’s not for everyone. Turning one’s life around and becoming a designer rather than a reactor isn’t easy or fast. Discovering or finding what we should do with our lives is one of life’s staggering dramas. It is a never-ending process of self-discovery and should be esteemed for the level of complexity involved.

You will have your knockers. “What a dumb idea!” “It won’t pay the rent.” How impractical.” “He’s off with the fairies again.”

But it’s not impractical and it won’t put you in the poorhouse. (You will think of the worst that can come about and have strategy B ready…won’t you?).